TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

In the society today toxic relationships have been redefined. A decade ago toxic relationship would mean friends that would teach you either to drink alcohol, sneak from home or start stealing. The truth is toxic friendship is any relationship that changes the behavior of an individual from being morally upright to being unethical, depending on morals standards that that person once had

According to Mrs. Pauline Wairimu a trained psychiatrists nurse and psychologist, toxic relationship starts of as mutual friendships. Having that friend you can tell everything. Someone you can trust with your life. In normal circumstances this talks that you share may seem normal until the influence is overwhelming no one see’s fault in little hate speeches. 

 

Toxic friends are characterized by, Gossiping and snide remarks about you and other people in your circle, Fault finding and criticism is the name of the game. Everything from the way you clean your office, to your dental hygiene, to your size, your friends, how much time you spend on things. Your thoughts and opinions are discounted mostly they are haters. Over-demanding, nothing you do is good enough. Subtle jabs and put downs, you often don't realize you've been put down until you start feeling bad.

This shows us that for a toxic relationship to exist, there are two side involved one side is a person who wants to belong and is very frustrated and on the other side is a friend who care and is ready to listen and offer a shoulder where need be. The result is the influence in the reverse.

Generally toxic people are filled with fears, afraid that they aren't good enough, of losing control, of exposing their inner desires and wants. Often they have been victims of toxic relationships themselves. When people don't feel good about themselves they view other people's successes as a poor reflection upon themselves. They resent other people who progress.

So, when another person is putting 'pressure' on them to lift their game the toxic person will search for a way to take the pressure off them. More often than not, they take this pressure off by belittling other peoples, dreams, successes, wins and goals. Your sense of self-worth and your capability greatly diminish if you are around a toxic person for too long. It is imperative that you take steps to ensure you stop the harm of people who are poisonous to you.

If you realize this are the friends you have, just walk away before they destroy your life.